The reason is because there was a perfect storm that lined up and was not prepared to handle it. It would be a shame to go through an experience like this and not learn from it. I believe I have.
I do believe that I have found new knowledge that will help me come with a future storm and although there might be other problems adultery will not be one of them.
My W has her own issues and she has to deal with them on her own. I cannot or will not worry about that. I don't expect her to come back and try to reconcile, so it is not something I'm worried about at the moment. I'm more worried about me and trying to be a better man and a better father. If I do then I will be ready for a new R.
She is tough, but she did care and love me. she didn't show it as often, but I think I didn't either and we fell in the routine of things. she put me down as she was suffering from self esteem issues too. She is a very beautiful woman, but that doesn't matter when you are not feeling good about yourself. The OM came and told her how great she was and she fell for it.
I know because I was addicted to the OW telling me the same. No remember I was not physical, but all that matter is that psychologically I was involved and the effect was the same.
My W and I found each other in a very particular time of our lives and things just happened. Neither of us was actively dating. We just found each other at the right time and things kept moving on from there.
