My values for me are based on strong biblical beliefs about what is right and what is wrong. It is not the same for everyone and religion doesn't have to be at the core of anyone's values. For me is the fear of G-d and loving others.
For me it was not about sex as mine were EA's for 3 years. The physical aspect was not fulfilling to me. I wanted a woman that would value me. Would show care and love and not say things to put me down.
I wanted a 180 from my W and never saw it, hence justifying my final action of moving froward with another W and moving out to later have a PA. All WRONG, WRONG, WRONG. I always loved my W and I knew it. whenever she would have sex with me I would just tremble and it made me feel guilty for what I was doing, but she allowed me to eat cake until she was fed up and found herself a man to have an A of her own with.
My self esteem is the same, but a bit bruised do to the fact the she chose him over me. Of course I understand the reasons why, but it still hurts. I know I'm attractive and women notice me. But all that doesn't matter when one is in a healing process. The process should take priority over anything else.
