Do you believe her? Yes. Believe that she doesn't want you and doesn't want to try. That doesn't stop you from believing that her feelings can change, and there lies your hope.
Refusing to believe that she wants out, insisting that your marriage is fixable and she's doing the wrong thing, is going to push her away. It is NOT listening, NOT respecting, NOT understanding her feelings that she is being very clear about. Be willing to let her go, because it is the only way she can get enough space to make her own decision to come back. She's NOT EVER going to come back because you insisted.
Why can't I get this simple message? I've heard it and read it numerous times and each time I tell myself "this is what must be done" and I ultimately screw it up shortly thereafter with something I shouldn't have said or done! I can do it, I know I'm stronger than what I'm showing!
me - 43 her - 34 married - 14 yrs Son 7 Daughter 8 The bomb - June 2013
