There's also a good example letter in the book "Love Must be Tough" by James Dobson if you are interested. The goal of the letter in the book is to make the spouse feel like the "cage" door has been open and they are "free".

Its so cool you are learning guitar....I wanted to learn to play the bass last year but didn't have the time to follow through.

me: 30 H:30
tgthr:7 m:4
no kids
5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012
long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012
official BD: July 2013
nothing filed
1/1/14 I dropped the rope