Yes, I understand what you mean. I never cheated before. So I know it is not a situation where I just have no concern for my spouse. What I can do is identify those causes that made me cheat and I have, for the most part. My needs were not being met. No problem, but at least now I know what those needs are and I can address that with my significant other in the future.
I also had self esteem issues that once I addressed by taking of myself and going to the gym made me turn around, but unfortunately I was over confident and immature. I felt as if I deserved more than my current sitch.
Most of all I strayed from my faith and G-d This the main cause. When one loses their core values and faith there is not much left. One starts to drift and and make mistakes. Well not mistakes, bad choices based on selfishness.
Most of all, one must care about others and the repercussions of one's action. How one can crush and hurt them in ways that are not easy to fathom.
