Adinva, good stuff in your post. I needed to read that as well, H was my outlet and even though my problems weren't that bad or even frequent, it was pressure for him and I didn't realize that. I assumed b/c we were married this was natural and normal...but apparently not everyone can handle it b/c if they feel as if they need to "fix" it for you and if they can't they feel inadequate. Not realizing most times all women want is someone to listen and tell them things will be ok....

I've learned that writing is a good alternative and if you're spiritual...praying.

me: 30 H:30
tgthr:7 m:4
no kids
5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012
long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012
official BD: July 2013
nothing filed
1/1/14 I dropped the rope