I am still working on the idea of pushing down all my needs/emotions for now. I mean, I am doing it, but it is very difficult.
In return I would like to clarify that it isn't a good idea to push down all of your needs and emotions. That isn't DB'ing or healthy, if you ask me. You aren't to show your H your emotions, but you certainly need to deal with them and feel your way through them.
Originally Posted By: melissag
Why? I mean, I am all about DBing and GALing and 180ing and giving him his space and putting his needs before mine, but now I have no say in our children's lives? It is one thing to not have input in small daily decisions, and I am fine with that, but actually taking a kid out of school is a big deal at our school, and a decision that H and I have always taken seriously and discussed thoroughly before pulling the trigger.
I am not pretending to speak for adinva, but my own thought is that if you both already agreed that it's fine for your children to miss a day of school for this event, then that wouldn't change because the status of your attendance changes.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
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