had to copy and paste this over, cause I accidently posted it in someone else's thread from when the email popped it up....
I get it, your hurt, the feeling of betrayal is incredible, you want your old life back, and back NOW.
I'm sorry, but your marriage is OVER, DEAD, its not on life support. Theres no going back to your old marriage. IF you want your marriage to survive, its going to be in another form, something new.
Be the man she'd be crazy to leave, right now? your are still the same guy she wants to leave and get away from.
There is a little, almost vindictive tone in some of your writing. I understand your hurt, confused, and lonely. She doesn't care about that right now. Why? Cause your still the same, your pushing your agenda on her, not respecting the space and time she requested from you, why would she come back to that?
Your emotions have taking you over, your not working, your retaliating. Go back and read over some of your posts, you will see that your trying to control the situation in your head. You have no control right now, but you need some, and need it fast.
Of course its tough!!! Can you do it? Can you handle it? Are you willing to put in the work? Look at it this way, your M problems started years ago, not last year, that was the first step in ending it all. Your wife feels like she was putting in all the work, carried the torch, you didn't respond to her needs. She left the marriage. Its your turn to put in all the work, carry the torch for a while. Are you willing?
Its almost like your keeping score, but you forgot about the whole first half of the game (its not a game of course). You throw some effort in and expect her to put some in too. It doesn't work that way.
