Hi Peace, I just got caught up with your thread. Loving the advice you are getting from Kate! I would love to know the answer to your question, too, though I suspect that it just depends on the people and the situation.

I had been very successful with DBing, 180ing, GALing with H in the weeks before he moved out (yesterday). It freaks me out to make me think he is not there to be DB'd now, but I think that is just the controlling person in me coming out - and that's what got me here in the first place.

I am hoping that with time and space, H will see more clearly, and I hope the same for you! Has he set a move out date yet? It seems like it's been a while since you posted - any update?

me: 44 XH: 42
M 11 years
D10 and S8
Bomb drop 9/27/13
D final 7/1/14