Intro - hoping for support/advice on DBing

[melissag]

I see the fine point of your clarification, but really it's another way of casting doubt on his ability to, what exactly?

No, it has nothing to do with him. It has to do with the kids. They are used to me being around 24/7. Maybe I am just trying to make myself feel important - it is kind of hard to think that after 9 years of dedicating myself to being a SAHM, I am actually unnecessary.

It was sounding for a minute like your cool city experience with them was more important than school, but H's would not be. Really?

Yep. He won't be with them anyway. He won't have the cool city experience with them. He will go play golf.

Or, he'll decide he'd rather not take them out of school for that extra day, but let that be his decision, not yours.

Why? I mean, I am all about DBing and GALing and 180ing and giving him his space and putting his needs before mine, but now I have no say in our children's lives? It is one thing to not have input in small daily decisions, and I am fine with that, but actually taking a kid out of school is a big deal at our school, and a decision that H and I have always taken seriously and discussed thoroughly before pulling the trigger.

You are doing amazingly well for so new in your sitch. Keep growing.

Thanks, adniva. I go between thinking that I am doing really well and thinking that I am a whiny brat and I am handling this terribly. I am probably both.