(1) We were planning to go Friday - Sunday. A few weeks before BD, I changed it to Thursday (the kids will miss a day of school) because I thought it would be fun for H to have more time with his siblings and there were some fun touristy things I wanted to do with the kids (with H, or without, if he had other plans) in the city where the wedding is. Well, now that I am not going, no, I do not want them to miss another day of school. It was fine in my head to do that for a family trip, but it's not that now. (There will still be time to spend with H's family - what I meant was, we were making it into a trip for our little family as well.) Your H and his children are a little family too.
(2) I don't want him to take the kids for three nights. That is going to be hard on me, and probably on them. I have taken the kids on trips before solo, but H never has. Let him learn. You aren't his mommy, telling him what he can and can't handle.
(3) Let's just get real here - I am just plain jealous that I don't get to go on this trip! I planned it, I was excited for it, and now I guess H gets to enjoy it with the kids and without me. H doesn't even like to travel, really - I'm the one who gets all excited about trips.
OK, as I am writing, I think I know I need to just let him take them and take them for all three nights, and just work out my petty, selfish thoughts on my own. I was considering agreeing that he can take them, but make it only two nights - or is that just me being controlling and bitchy?
Go ahead and tell the truth, I can take it. You already know the answer.
Let him take them all three nights if he wants them. You're better than being petty and jealous, selfish and controlling, picking fights unnecessarily. Does that describe the version of you that you want to be?
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
