Still hoping W is planning to leave my assets alone and not challenge my staying in the house.
You can hope, and you should pray, but sitting around with your finger up your a** while your wife is preparing for a divorce action is going to get you fleeced.
I'm a little confused on how to behave right now. Should I try to talk to her about her plans and hammer out some agreements?
You should,
1. DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT.
2. State what you want.
3. You can state what you want in one of three ways:
A) Get a good divorce attorney (this means war) B) Get your wife to agree to work with a mediator (cheaper) C) Get your wife to agree to get 2 collaborative lawyers. there's a type of law called collaborative law. That means they agree they won't fight it out in court.
Maybe go dim and act like I'm on my own?
No...you are more acting like a deer caught in the headlights. You are about to get hit by a Mack truck driven by your soon-to-be ex wife, her lover(s) while she is egged on by her piece of sh*t friends suggesting she take you to the cleaners. You are about to lose your home, your assets and your children. Certainly to your wife, quite possibly to another man.
Your marriage is pretty much over. Take charge of your life NOW. You get to decide what your life is going to look like from now on. If you don't, your wife will. You are still in denial. The longer you wait to state what you want, the more your life will plot and ruminate and drag you through the deepest hell in your life.
