Honey, I know all the stuff below is heartfelt, but, to her it is you not getting that she doesn't want the marriage. Doesnt mean she really doesn't, doesn't mean she wont in the future, but right now, all the things she is saying and doing is her trying to tell you that. That doesnt mean she wont contradict herself because she is, after all, MLC. This stuff just pisses them off. She knows how you feel. Trust me, she knows. She doesnt think she has to heal. You telling her, will also piss her off. You've said it,written it, she heard it, now stop.
And that was the the B lady in action!
Truegritter was spitting teeth after that one!
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
Personally, I like the brutal honesty uR. But maybe I'm kinky that way.
Seriously, some of the things you and others have said really chap my hide at times, but to me that is GREAT. How else will I know what I need to work on as others see it? How else will I learn to get unstuck from the chains that bind me? Like Mach has said to me the other day, when it stings, I want to take a look at why it stings and that is so true. That was an awesome insight he had into himself that made me go HMMMM, ME TOO!...I want to know the whys. Instead of the whining why me? ya know?
We love your nice spirit, it's warm and gentle and soothes me at times to see how much you have been through and you came out of it so incredibly loving and generous. That's not to say you don't have a B side, but you use it when you need to and effectively, so not B at all, just straight to the point. We need those, I need those.
p.s. I read earlier where you were only 5 feet tall and I have to say that was exactly how I pictured you! Small and tiny but with HUGE spirit and energy.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
Pud, thank you so much for this and for your kind words. And goof for you for wanting to look within and understand. It is how we learn and grow.
I did want to tell you that they used to call me B lady because my old user name started with a B. LOL!
And did you really picture me that way? How come?
When I met Nero and Rosa, they both did not picture me so little and they thought I was much older. Funny how we how these pictures in our head.
You know, I get what you are saying. I think I was just feeling as if I wasnt helping lately. So, when I reached out to someone, he told me that he had noticed a change in me from the past. And I felt I wanted to look at that.
We love your nice spirit, it's warm and gentle and soothes me at times to see how much you have been through and you came out of it so incredibly loving and generous. That's not to say you don't have a B side, but you use it when you need to and effectively, so not B at all, just straight to the point. We need those, I need those.
p.s. I read earlier where you were only 5 feet tall and I have to say that was exactly how I pictured you! Small and tiny but with HUGE spirit and energy.
Pud, thank you so much for this and for your kind words. And goof for you for wanting to look within and understand. It is how we learn and grow.
I did want to tell you that they used to call me B lady because my old user name started with a B. LOL!
And did you really picture me that way? How come?
When I met Nero and Rosa, they both did not picture me so little and they thought I was much older. Funny how we how these pictures in our head.
You know, I get what you are saying. I think I was just feeling as if I wasnt helping lately. So, when I reached out to someone, he told me that he had noticed a change in me from the past. And I felt I wanted to look at that.
I couldn't tell you why I pictured you that way. When I talk to people online I get visions of what people look like, sometimes they are true. Maybe because you are so REAL, I got the picture right!
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
