Divorce Busting Techniques

[Mimi00]

Hi louela, its actually a positiventhat you now have a list of your husbands complaints about the marriage. A lot of WASs walk away w/o clearly explaining why and the LBS can sometimes be clueless as to what chabges they need to make. So use that list to your benefit.

I found my H's list while cleaning up several months ago and I stuck it in one of my drawers and forgot about it. I didn't know how to go about fixing a lot of the things on that list at the time anyways. I recently found the list again and I plan to make the necessary changes to check off every valid thing on that list so that with or with out my H I will never make those mistakes again. It also takes away all of his excuses and leaves nothing but the truth.

When my H BD'd a few months ago, I listened and validated by saying "i understand....that mustve been hard...i did not realize you felt that way etc...". The old me would've told him "my side" (which usually helped nothing bc he believed his negative assumptions over my words anyway) or I cried the entire time. So the point of validating is letting them feel like they are being heard, giving worth to their feelings, showing support.