@NTX - I know my W DID feel that pain. Add to that 5 years of physical abuse and serial adultery by her XH, and I'm sure that compounded on top of our own issues.
And no, it wasn't coffee and underwear day, but I wish it was! I actually started a new project so was onsite. W might come to D13's play tomorrow, but we even moved dinner back to Sunday.
@pud - thanks for checking in! I think I probably need more advice NOW than before; considering I could totally screw this up!