Phew, looks like it is time to start a new thread!
Thanks everyone for your thoughts and good advice.
Yes, Rosa he is a scorpio. All claws!
NLT - I know, right? I am not usually a negative person, but with him I cannot seem to help it. And they are so strange and he has convinced himself so thoroughly that the three of us could be besties (and apparently once convinced GF enough that she could hardly wait to meet me, barf) that I can't quite rule it out.
Ladies, you sure make me think. Rosa, I am always so impressed with your perspective and your giving soul. I fall into self-preservation mode and all I worry about is me getting hurt. I am embarrassed to say that I never thought of calling him. I do not know if I am ready to do that, but again, you have made me think of someone else besides me in all this. LOL. He would fall off his chair if I called, I'm sure. I might chance it if I knew if GF was out of the picture.
And NLT,
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The desire to trust is difficult once it's been lost. Most of us wonder what we'd do if our spouses decided they wanted to reconcile. What if your xSO is truly trying to reconnect? Would you give him the opportunity to earn your trust again?
Isn't that the million dollar question? I don't know the answer. MLC changes them. We may not want the same things anymore. This journey has let me see what is important to me and I learned that however untraditional my life has been, I would choose it again. If he truly dreams of a "white-picket fence" life with children, I do not belong in that picture.
On the flip side, if he was to come back and say that he really didn't want that life and wants the one we planned, how do I believe him? Regaining trust would be so hard to do. The pull of possibly regaining the life we dreamed of, is a strong pull though. But nothing would be the same.
So, I really don't know. And I don't let myself think of it too much. Because he may never want anything more from me than to be able to send me these random texts. I am not even positive that he sends them out of anything more than guilt for the way he treated me.
LOL, imagine, I have been called decisive in another world
