Thanks for the reference card. After a couple of statements over the last few days, I realize that one thing I must avoid is trying to act parental towards this lost child that my W has become. She definitely doesn't want or need that. Its very hard when someone you love is hurting, but I've gotta find the ability to just let her walk it.
I am guilty of this too. Because I have a teenage son in the house, I found myself comparing S with H and started treating H like my S. Totally not fair to him and disrespectful to him as an adult AND a parent. I've noticed once I have started to treat him like a man and an adult, he is responding quite differently, even to our S, which is the MOST awesome part of this. I want their R to be better than it was. I was treating him like he couldn't handle his own issues, so allow your wife to handle her own issues, it will make a huge difference. And I know you see that already, now apply it!
I like the reference card too T^2. I may post this on my thread as well for a nice reminder.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
