I think the way to do that is to dig in and face the pain. I'm not advocating staying/going. I'm advocating really digging in and seeing why the pain is there (aside from the obvious actions of late; I suspect that's not all there is to that, right?) My supposition is that if you're done with him, you should not be feeling pain, per se. If you're done, there's no need to grieve the relationship etc.
I do get that you don't know if you want to continue. Only you know when it's time to stop and walk away.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
