Hey J....

I want you to read this when you have a chance....

I credit Breakdown for his role in this thread, and I read it myself often. He is an incredible guy...

This will help you see the growth that CAN happen after you jump off of that cliff....


http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2257683#Post2257683


I also want you to understand this about detaching...

Detaching isn't some elusive , concrete thing that you can find (unlike Bigfoot)...

Detaching is a state of mind, that comes after you start doing the 'real' work within yourself.

There is a peace that comes from being detached, a peace that only comes when you KNOW that you will survive this, whether your marriage does or not.

And not only will you survive, you will thrive....

It doesn't mean that you stop loving, it means that you stop letting it affect you...