BA, it's one thing to consciously decide to try dating women outside you normal comfort zone...that's cool. It's not OK to just settle for whatever crumbs someone else wants to drop you. If Barb can't give you what you want and deserve in a fair amount of time, don't just settle. That's what I'm getting at. Those of us who are known for our "flexibility" often compromise...or rather surrender our legitimate needs to what others are willing to give. I'm a pro at telling myself I'm being too selfish or too rigid etc. and end up finding myself giving all the time and losing myself in the process. You be true to you...that's all I'm saying.
Barb... I miss Sanibel. Finn's make-a-wish to Ft Meyers Beach was so amazing and wonderful. We are already trying to plan when we can go back...(it was going to be this summer but my son is at college-looking-at-phase and he wants to go to Berklee School of Music in Boston soooooo to Boston we will go this summer.)
Finn has a tubie too...we trained both Nick and Dylan to give her her meds and food through the tube. It was scary for both of them at first (me too) but now they are old hats at it.
Hopefully Ryan's meds kick in soon and he starts to feel better.
The workers told me today that his skin looks much better & he is happy. That's comforting! Ash is good with the tube - just hadn't done it for a while but she jumped right back in. It's harder for Josh but he will do fine. Because he is careful about everything he does. I'm so lucky for him.
Car wouldn't start so kept my rental another day. AAA came & boosted it then my neighbor popped in & offered to drive me home from the airport tomm when I drop it off. How nice is that (cabs are about $50). So into will be afternoon before I get to the beach. Can't wait!
Ok, I no sooner write that ny ex hasn't bothered to contact & boom - he messages me asking how Ry's trip was & if he can see him in 2 weeks. I swear - he reads this bb.
BA, it's one thing to consciously decide to try dating women outside you normal comfort zone...that's cool. It's not OK to just settle for whatever crumbs someone else wants to drop you. If Barb can't give you what you want and deserve in a fair amount of time, don't just settle. That's what I'm getting at. Those of us who are known for our "flexibility" often compromise...or rather surrender our legitimate needs to what others are willing to give. I'm a pro at telling myself I'm being too selfish or too rigid etc. and end up finding myself giving all the time and losing myself in the process. You be true to you...that's all I'm saying.
Thanks for having my back Wii. I agree with everything you are saying and if it turns out that she isn't willing to give me the time and effort I deserve then, as much as I am into her, I will move on. I've been in a lopsided relationship before and emotionally it is not healthy.
Sunday is the 1 year anniversary of when Marianne and I first met. I am considering sending her an arrangement of purple flowers (her favorite color) with the following note: "M, One year ago I met a wonderful and awesome woman - you! Although our relationship did not work out as hoped, I am so happy to have met you and that you remain a part of my life. Best always, D."
My intentions are to simply let her know that this day remains important to me, she remains important to me and that I appreciate her as a friend. So I'm hoping that you folks looking at this through unfiltered eyes can either validate this or let me know that it is crossing a line and not a good idea.
Damn - it [censored] being nice and considerate! Ok I defer to the wise people on this board. On another note it's 9:30pm on a Friday night and I am already in bed - ALONE! - what is wrong with this picture!
