You can probably all see where it went pear shaped. I lost my temper. It's more difficult to keep my temper when I'm not as concerned about how W see's me.
Certainly you can understand how losing your temper is not productive, correct? And I don't mean that just in regards to you DB'ing and trying to save your marriage, but as in you two having a relationship that creates the best possible environment for your children.
You should be concerned with how W sees you. Forget reconciling for a moment. She is a woman who can testify in court against your character and parenting capacity.
Now forget court and legal visitation rights for a moment. This is a woman who is the mother of your children, one you will have to deal with for the rest of your life, but especially over the next ~20 years as your kids grow up.
You shouldn't care what your W - or anyone else - thinks about what your core convictions are. You should absolutely care how you handle yourself in confrontational situations with her, though. If you don't think you can control yourself, then remove yourself from the situation (turn your phone off, walk away, etc.). I understand the frustration you much feel, but you need to act productively...in a manner that ultimately helps you meet your long term goals.
Big picture thinking!
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
