I mean it cuts to the very core of standing. Do we stand for the marriage by staying in the marriage or leaving the marriage?
You get what I'm saying?
I don't agree with his behavior. I think he needs help. Desperately. But, am I enabling the behavior by staying married to him?
Is RosaL enabling by allowing him to live in the house?
Heather,
Standing for your own marriage is a CHOICE you make every single day. No one is forcing you to stand...there's no gun to your head.
Would you want to kick out someone who has a 103-degree fever? Likewise someone who has MLC. It is a sickness that affects the brain and it is an invisible 'disease.' You don't kick out a MLCer because it is just damned too inconvenient to you, feeling indignant over OW/OM, and feeling that one's "enabling" the MLCer. Crazy!
Linda did set a boundary with H over RT. They are not allowed to Skype in front of Linda in the house. So H made the choice to confine his Skyping in his own room with the door closed. That is not control exerted by Linda.
