Well, you've already rung the bell, so you can't unring it. But since you sent it and laid out the boundaries/conditions of a possible reconciliation, then it's like throwing the ball in her court. If she doesn't say anything about the note, then for goodness sake don't ask her if she read it or begin to repeat what you said in the note. If she wants to discuss it, she will do it in her own time.
I agree with what you said you told her in the note. However, she could very easily see you being quite presumptuous....since she has said nothing to you about having second thoughts.
I think your Pastor tried to tell you that you act/speak before taking necessary time to give it enough thought. Many LBS's discuss their thoughts with board members before acting on it, to get perspective...and more time. I'm not saying you have to run everything by us, but things like note would be a good example of one to talk about.
Another suggestion....I don't know how many people you discuss your MR with...but be very careful who you tell what. When a couple tries to reconcile, it can make the spouse and friends (or relatives, etc.) uncomfortable later, and that can cause a problem. You have your Pastor, your good friend, and us. More than that....is too many folks. Also, be very careful who you listen to (since you are fast to act on it).
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
