OK, I'll just try to tread lightly, and then try little things and see what the response is. I think at this point there is some room for error - my main goal is to make sure that I don't break down or freak out in front of H. I think that will be easier now that I have some space, because when he was here all the time, I didn't have as much opportunity to get out all those bottled up emotions.
I just struggle with the contradiction of needing space and wanting more affection. I did tell him the other night that I am really trying to respect his need for space and offer that to him, so I don't want him to take that as lack of interest, and that I would be sort of following his lead during this time. So hopefully he will get that.
On another note, his sister and stepmother are texting me saying they want to talk, they care about me, how am I, yadda yadda. His sister I am close with, but obviously am not going to talk with her about any of this, because her "allegiance" is with H. My stepmother in law I am not close with - we get along fine, but she is probably just being nosy, so I am going to blow her off.
But, what to say to the sister, who will most likely be relaying any interesting info to H? Do I say I don't want to talk about it, or say "thanks for checking in, we are doing fine"? Not sure what to say to people who we both know, and I know will blab to H.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
