And when you make an agreement with her, make sure it's an agreement. Text it to her, or email it ans say, "this is our agreement as I understand it, do you agree?" so you both are clear and have it in writing.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss