This is what I have been doing with my H and how he deals with my S. For too long, I tried to help them work through things, but no longer. I step back and let my H deal with it even if I don't agree with how he does it. His way is to escalate the arguing and sass back just like my S does. So it's really like two teens arguing. But now every once in a while my H reacts calmly to S, especially since I started acting more calm around H. interesting development, eh?
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
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