New to the board, fairly newly LBS from MLC.

[tigerlily78]

I also ran across this on another thread but didn't want to derail that discussion:

Whoops. I clearly forgot to paste over the quote. Anyways, the conversation was about addiction and how addicts commonly substitute one kind of addiction for another. I think OW is clearly filling her addictive void with me WAS. I also ran across something on addiction and ritual behaviors and remembered that WAS mentioned to me he drank a "near beer" with dinner at OW's house and she is also drinking it. At the time he said it I gave him kind of a dubious look, like "Umm.. should a recovering alcoholic be drinking near beer?" Most online resources I found seem to indicate NO... that it is still serving as a psychological crutch or ritual that serves the same role as the addiction did, and is often the beginning of a slide back into abuse. "If I can handle drinking a near beer or three and be in control, then why shouldn't I be able to start drinking a real beer or two when I want."

I know that my journey is supposed to be about ME. I just think it's interesting to have the insight. In a way I guess I should be thankful that my WAS was initially so open about who she is... otherwise the mystery of it would probably be a lot more annoying and intimidating than the reality. Yes, she is pretty and likes to skate. I kind of feel like I am not so bad looking myself and my list of other skills and credentials blows that out of the water. :P