Based on the information you provided in your signature, my algorithmic based Divorce Busting simulating model says this will occur for you in exactly 37 days.
-PM
So I've got a little time is what you are saying.
That's just what the report says. Don't shoot the messenger.
It also says,
"Though at times the subject feels resentment and that the reconciliation of the relationship is a cause with too high a price to pay, these times are impermanent. This impermanence, coupled with the varying degrees of seemingly opposite emotional states of mind, indicates the subject is not 'done' with the relationship and that serious effects could be induced if decisions are made during these times of emotional instability."
If I may add in my own two cents, the standard advice I've read here is "you'll know when you're done...you won't have to ask."
Personally, I know the feelings you are experiencing. There are a lot of feelings I have experienced. What you have to do is figure out who you are and who you want to be, then doing the hard work to reconcile the differences between the two.
I've recently posted about the "downside" (if we really want to put that kind of a label on it) of detaching, which is seldom spoken of. It's seldom spoken of because it takes so much effort to get there and when you get there, you're a healthier person than you were before, so "downside" probably isn't the best term.
But the feelings of growing away from your W and not being sure if R is worth the time and effort? Yeah, all that is a natural part of the process. I caution against acting out of emotion and do something you will later regret. Don't be driven by your feelings, be driven by your core convictions. Stick to those, expect the emotional swings (which will reduce with time), and march on.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
