She may not be in MLC. To read a list that sounds like the actions of your spouse...doesn't mean it's the correct "diagnosis". The symptoms of a WAW & MLC are very similar. I say this b/c if she's a WAW, she may not be in crises mode as long as one in MLC.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
