I have a couple of questions before I post my story.
What is meant by setting goals? I know they are supposed to be short term, but are these goals supposed to be related to the relationship or personal goals. Both perhaps? Can a goal be I want my partner to open up to me? Do little things she used to do? Or more like, I want to go a day without thinking about her? Or I want to update my resume and send it out? I'm just a little confused when everyone mentions setting goals.
About 180's. should these be things that are exact opposite of who she thinks I am? Or things opposite of what I was already doing in the relationship. It's confusing for me because I've spent almost 2 years changing who I was. So a 180 to me is a bit confusing. Example, I used to be very vengeful. Now I am not, so a 180 for me now would be to not do nice things out of spite. BUT she thinks I'm going to be spiteful so should I just do nice things because it is the opposite of how she views me?
Also, I'm not married but we're common law partners with a 3 year old. She used to call me her husband to people and we always wanted to get married. So does any of the info on this site pertain to me?
Also, I've read about newcomers not being able to see their posts right away due to moderation. How long does one stay on moderation?
Thanks and I'm looking forward to any help regarding my story.
