Hi flogurl

It sounds like your H may have some mental health issues.

Is he willing to get treated?

Does he think he has a problem or is he blaming it on his life choices?

You'll find some good folks to help here because your approach to this will be same as any other situation

I think I saw Cadet posted the resources here for you.

You found some of Snodderly's writing she is good to read.

What you need to accept real quick is that you can't fix him. He has to decide to do that.

Now

What are you prepared to do for your M if you are not guaranteed it can be saved?

And

Why?

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am