Separated 2 1/2 months; just trying to stay strong

[Pudmuddle]

I will no longer define myself based upon H's opinions of me or his fantasies about OW. I DESERVE so much better than that. You do too!!

Some of the bad thinking that got me back here to DB 6 years later, is that I was trying to define myself according to what I thought H wanted from a woman (after his first A). I had no self-esteem after we 'reconciled' the first time because I thought I just wasn't good enough. I was always trying to please him, hence I became totally enmeshed in his emotions and how he reacted to me and other things. Not a good way to treat yourself. So yes please do NOT define yourself by H's opinions or fantasies it will deplete your soul.

pw, I like the idea of writing and burning a letter, a great release for you I'm sure! I may have to do that someday, but right now I could really care less about FloorMop. I KNOW I am better, sexier, more wonderful than she will ever be.