just a rule to be laid out. Her responses to me almost seemed childlike. An insight into how her brain is right now.
Her responses were childlike, because that is the way she was being treated.
Rules ?
Is that what YOU want in a relationship ???
Sounds controlling to me...
There is a HUGE difference between being a "man" and being a hard ass....
J, I respect your need for your dignity, and I get that you needed it in this one area.
And I think you are completely missing my point....
My point was it was a boundary that he felt needed to be set. Allowing someone to do something you don't agree with is an assault to the sensibility. If she were to want to murder her neighbor, would you allow that? Could you control it? No, but you could let them know wouldn't participate in it.
Is it a control issue? probably, but there is a fine line between being a doormat and maintaining dignity.
Pud, I gotta say...
When I first read this, I felt that little urge to fire back something off the hip...
I felt that little burn, and when that happens ?
I gotta know why before I say anything, or act....
It stung because "I" didn't fully understand your point, and it stung because I wasn't trying to understand your point of view.
So thank you for slowing that down for me...
I DO understand what you are saying.
And I don't feel as if we are that far apart in this.
My point is, that the boundary DID need to be set if it is bothering him. It is the WAY that he set the boundary that bothered me...
One sounds controlling, one protects himself.
Wife,
I understand that you feel connected when you use this time to text and PM. However, I find myself not being able to sleep when that happens. I would greatly appreciate it, if it could be done elsewhere.
Thank you
If the perception on her behalf is, that he hasn't changed, then it will always be that way for her...
And it doesn't matter one little bit if it is the truth...it is HER truth....
As a Woman, what version would you feel less intimidated, and controlled by ????
