I see what you're saying, LA.....but in the realm of a child, 30 minutes away is the equivalent to 3,000 miles away. She would be in a different school district, different friends (which she already complains about), different teachers, etc.
To answer your question about how many moves W has made in the past 12 months; she decided to move out of our marital home, when trading off time in the home no longer met her personal needs. That move didn't change daughters world all that much, outside of the home itself. She still had the same pier group, school, teachers, bus drivers and extra activities (mini-cheer, Daisy group, Church). Move #1 was simply moving to the apartment on our property
Move #2 came when W began spending nights at OM's with daughter, a completely different subject, but one I feel is also not in daughters best interest. In the very beginning, W and D would sleep on the couch. Flash forward about a month, W was sleeping in OM's room, while Daughter was sharing a bed with an adopted 12 year old (from another family who also lives in the home). Not until the past few weeks has daughter had her own space within that home, many many months! Move #2 was from the apartment to OM's house.
Keep in mind, wife WAS NOT forced out of the apartment, nor our home for that matter. I vented my concerns about asking her to move on this forum, but did not share this with wife. The apartment is still full of her belongings, and she has the only key. For all intents and purposes, it is still in her possession. She does spend some time there during the days, from time to time. I am not sure why or what for.
Move #3 is currently in progress. OM has another home, which he will be moving all 7 members into. Yes, 7 members. Daughter is currently living in OM's home (when she is not with me). This includes W, OM, daughter, OM's mother who has dementia, a married couple who are care givers for the mother and their adopted daughter. The new home will put them in yet ANOTHER school district which will make 3 schools and 4 homes for daughter, in less than a year!
I hope you see where I am going with this. I just don't see the stability in the home. I don't see the stability in W's decision making to include daughter in the relationship that W has chosen. I don't feel that daughter is being set as priority one. I believe WIFE is priority one, and her actions represent that. Therefore, I WILL fight for primary household. I don't wish to take any time away from wife. I feel it is extremely important for daughter to be connected to both parents, and she is. I feel whole heartedly that keeping daughter in the home, school and community she has been accustomed to is in her best interest.
