just a rule to be laid out. Her responses to me almost seemed childlike. An insight into how her brain is right now.
Her responses were childlike, because that is the way she was being treated.
Rules ?
Is that what YOU want in a relationship ???
Sounds controlling to me...
There is a HUGE difference between being a "man" and being a hard ass....
J, I respect your need for your dignity, and I get that you needed it in this one area.
And I think you are completely missing my point....
My point was it was a boundary that he felt needed to be set. Allowing someone to do something you don't agree with is an assault to the sensibility. If she were to want to murder her neighbor, would you allow that? Could you control it? No, but you could let them know wouldn't participate in it.
Is it a control issue? probably, but there is a fine line between being a doormat and maintaining dignity.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
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