Finding myself in all of this is my journey. I am working on that with the help of many of you on here. Along the way, with all of the introspective soul searching that I am doing, there has to be some basic day-to-day boundaries and living that must go on.
I am working on my detachment from "needing" her. I am working on not allowing my every move to be dictated by her selfish actions. I am working on finding understanding and compassion for what she is going through and why she is the person that she is. I am doing all the MLC homework again. I am trying to find peace in the middle of this tornado. I am trying to protect my kids and my finances from the wake of destruction.
^^^And all things considered, you’re doing a damn good job of it. I believe you already know who you are and who you want to be.
Oh sure, you’ll be doing some fine tuning along the way, and that’s great! But in my opinion, you don’t need to go on a year’s long sabbatical, write an autobiography and two novel’s on the meaning of life and love to figure this out and start living. It just doesn't have to be that hard. At some point you have to just get on with being who you want to be and ENJOYING your life.
Good job telling her you don't want that behavior in your bed, and not allowing it to become a fight. Now hold to this request. Bust On!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
