PW - I know that you wrote your post for yourself, but it really changed something in me. I read each of your items and thought to myself "Me Too." Just like you are SO much better than Dishrag (love your nickname), I know that I am SO much better than my H's OW.

I felt empowered after I read your post and thought about it for a few hours. I will no longer define myself based upon H's opinions of me or his fantasies about OW. I DESERVE so much better than that. You do too!!

Your letter sounds like an excellent idea. Glad you were able to get out the anger and venom smile I may try the exact same thing.