Ok so I don't want to text him and try to make clear what I want and make a bigger mess of things. Please tell what to do forum. Should I just wait for him to bring the divorce papers over, or, do I say something?
I would wait for him to bring the papers over and have a face-to-face with him. I agree with you that it seemed like he was fishing around to see if maybe you would suggest not proceeding with D. Perhaps he doesn't want to. Now that may not mean he wants to reconcile, but maybe he's not so sure now that D is the answer. Assuming you don't want D, then when you talk to him just tell him you're OK with postponing it if he wants to. No pressure for reconciling, just say that maybe you both need more time to think. If the convo goes well then you might mention you'd be open to dating in the future and leave the rest up to him.
