Unfortunately the decision was made out of frustration and anger. I have thought about this one for quite some time. I wanted to take a stand about this activity because I felt like my lack of a stand was condoning her behavior. I no longer wanted to be a wishy washy doormat when it came to her texting OM right beside me. I felt the need to protect myself from this behavior for a few reasons:
1-It is an act to constantly push my buttons. I cannot afford that nightly, I need to sleep and function daily. It is difficult for me to detach when she is flaunting her actions nightly.
2-The act gives her power to push me out of the MBR in my own house. I do not want to allow her MLC actions the ability to do that.
I tried to carefully make it about our ability to communicate and not make it about OM. I did not want to punish her or even bring up the fact that I know that she has ignored me and texted OM right next to me in our own bed. Bedtime is one of the few times that W and I are together. It is one time that we can communicate and I can practice my new listening/validation skills. If she doesn't want to communicate with me, then she should just leave the room and at least respect my right to get a good night's sleep.
I do not want to be a man that sits idly by and facilitates her destructive behavior. I understand that I cannot control her, but there must be boundaries if we are going to stay in the same house. After finding out that OM has called the house phone as well as her cell, I also felt the need to protect my children form this behavior.
Both 40 T-22 M-18 S13 S11
Bomb, ILYBINILWY-7/10/13 EA #1-confirmed 7/10/13, ongoing since 5/13 EA #2-9/13/13
