J how did it go?

Problem with this boundary is enforcing it.

What if she doesn't stop? What is the consequence?

There are some things you just can't tip toe around and this may be one of them. She is going to get mad when you put your foot down on this one.

She will see you as controlling.

They feel very entitled to what they are doing.

Are you prepared to sleep in another bed?

Is it the noise she makes or the idea that she is carrying on in your marital bed right next to you?

Boundaries are to protect you not to punish or enforce

What do you need to protection from?

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am