Very curious about your H just lingering around and ignoring OW. He is obviously feeling more comfortable with you but has to make a disparaging remark to ensure the dumb choices he has made. Ego trip.
I think you did quite well NQ.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
I agree with Pud I think at the mo your H doesn't know what he wants.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I'm kinda getting that feeling as well, but I'm also pretty sure that next week he won't feel the same so I'm not getting excited about anything just yet. Need to see a lot more positive action first.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I agree, this forum is a life line for me It helps keep both my feet firmly on the ground
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Definitely needs to dump the baggage - and not just OW. He's got a female friend which I'd consider to be an inappropriate friendship - she's the same age as his boys with XW1, her boyfriend doesn't like their friendship (obviously neither she or H have any respect for the BF's feelings) and he uses her as a sounding board for his issues - both marital and with OW. Not to mention that she has her own agenda - if H offered to bed her, she'd be on him like a dog in heat.
I fully intend to let him ride out his rollercoaster. I'll take whatever positives I get, but certainly no expectations, and definitely baby steps all the way.
Blech. My H has a female coworker like this. What is wrong with some women who think its okay?! I need to adopt your PMA!!!
Welcome to the THEIR world of IMMATURITY. I'm quite certain all OPs and the potential ones are such.
M35 XW34 D5 D4 M 6years T 10years Bomb 5/2013 Joint Petition signed 6/2013 Moved out end of 8/2013 Court Hearing of Joint Petition 9/2013 D finalized in 3 months - no news yet
My H did have a famale friend who was only a year older than my son. I'm not sure if he's still hanging around with her or not as I haven't looked at his FB page for months Go me I know that it was only a friend and not anything else.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
And so the strangeness with H continues . This morning he called me at work to let me know something that he normally would have done with a text . Tomorrow is the parent-teacher interview following S13's school report card, but H already had plans as he thought it would be an evening interview. He was trying to change his plans and wanted to let me know that he isn't able to. Up to now, all conversation about this interview has been by text.
I'm really not sure why he felt the need to phone to tell me that, but it certainly proves his mind is not working the way it normally would I guess. I thanked him for letting me know, kept the conversation short and promised to update him with any feedback from the teacher.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
Hmmm, he obviously wants to speak to you instead of just sending a text. I take this as a positive Sounds like he could be coming out of the fog slowly
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
. This morning he called me at work to let me know something that he normally would have done with a text 
. Tomorrow is the parent-teacher interview following S13's school report card, but H already had plans as he thought it would be an evening interview. He was trying to change his plans and wanted to let me know that he isn't able to. Up to now, all conversation about this interview has been by text.