Can you get her to read "The Sex Starved Marriage"? My wife read it and it explained the relationship challenges much better than I could. Having my wife read it made a big difference for me, she "got it".

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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015