I think we all would love to have things work out for you with someone you are really excited about being with. You are obviously a really nice guy who is perhaps a tad bit too accomadating.
So what to do? Don't be so available. Don't rush to set something up. Perhaps ask how her trip went but otherwise don't instigate anything. Let her do some thinking. Does she want to be where you are or not.
You could be a great match but perhaps the timing is off. If it is meant to be it will work out, if not now then in the future. We all note the time we've been going it alone but it is only as big as deal as you make it be.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory