It's going to be bad enough not having H around (I am dreading it like nothing else), but then not even having the kids . . . I hate it when they even spend the night at a friend's house. I guess I have to get used to it, though.
Yes.
But you'll get some time to yourself. Time to get stuff done, not have to put on a happy face for the kids and really let your feelings out, time to think clearly about some things, and it'll be good practice for how your weekends will look for a little while.
Originally Posted By: melissag
I've never slept in this house alone. It's gonna be awful.
How do you guys deal with the loneliness? For 13.5 years, H has been with me almost every single night and almost every single weekend. Weekends were for family activities. Now it will be just me and the kids, or me alone. I am used to doing my own thing during the day when H is at work and the kids are at school, and that alone time was great . . . but I knew at the end of the day I'd have my family around. How am I going to fill that enormous hole?
I don't know if I can give up the kids all weekend. But they won't fill the hole left by H anyway. Ugh. I feel like the past 6 weeks have been full of having to decide between multiple awful options. And I am having trouble even deciding which ones are the least crappy.
This s.u.c.k.s.
Yes it does. But you have the chance to come out of this experience a stronger, better person. You also have the choice to NOT come out that way.
-Life dealt you some lousy cards? Play them well.-
I know that some of what this forum provides is a means to vent, and I'm definitely not discouraging you from using it for that, but I am saying that you have to make the best of your situation. Take some time to feel your feelings. It really is okay and understandable and valid to have those feelings. Just don't let them beat you, okay? Don't let them win. You're better than that.
Be sad/mad/bitter/whatever for a little while (never around H or kids, of course - DB101). Then get up, brush yourself off, and march on. We'll be here for you the whole time.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
