Things are going really well. The biggest challenge for H and I is time to spend together. We did go on a date about a month ago because we had a gift card and a free sitter. With me out of work, we do not have any $ to spare. With my workload at school, I am up at 5a to study before school, in class from 8a-230 and then another 4-6 hours of work most days. We are squeezing in 2-3 at home, mini-dates a week where we watch a favorite show, eat our favorite snacks, whatever. We have coffee together every Sat-Sun morning (in bed now that it is too cold for the patio!) and I also wake him 2-3 mornings a week between studying and the shower or we would rarely have time for FUN!
It is working. I know we can do more, and be even better, as we move forward and when we get to C in January (when our new health insurance starts with coverage that will pay for it). We have come a long way, we talk about the future and being together, I no longer think he is having an A when I see him texting, we don't fight (not that we don't ever disagree, we just handle disagreements differently and they don't become full blown flights like before).
We are in a very different place and we are always thanking each other, we are grateful for each other (through words, actions, letters), we are more thoughtful to each other.
Clearly life isn't always perfect, or a bed of roses, but when I think about our M now, the above is really how I feel and what stands out. Are there rough moments? Sure, they just don't stand out as much. Before, it was almost all rough moments and the good times didn't stand out so they were easy to miss or forget. Now the bad moments are easy to forget.
Thank you for asking about me. I really do want to start a piecing thread because I know I have a lot left to learn!
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
