Hoping for Reconciliation after being Separated...

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I asked him if he could take them for an hour or two once in a while and he gave me a little bit of attitude about it. He says it has been hard on him too and he would like it if I would do that for him.. for me to leave the house with all 3 kids so he can have the house to himself. He doesn't like staying at his brother's because it is not his home. I kind of lost it on him saying that right now all of the weight is on me and I am asking him for relief and that instead he is burdening me with more things.

I am sure it is hard on both of you. I know being a single mom is and I have also lived in someone else's home and it is hard to relax and have any true space of your own. I think the best thing you can do in this situation is tell H that you realize how the situation is difficult for both of you and make a deal - he takes the kids on Thursday night and on Saturday evening, you will take them to xx and he can have the house to himself for a while. Let him see that you understand his perspective and situation, and that you care about what he said and want to meet his needs - and that you need your needs met too!