Thanks for the perspective. I'll definitely take it into account.
Just trying to have a PMA today. Being sick and realizing that W has been with OM for almost half as long as we were married is bringing me down a bit.
That is also playing a part in my feeling reluctant to answer her contacts. Part of me is growing impatient with the time involved in all this. I worry that continuing to allow her to come to me for support is not helping her to see what life without M would be like and evaluate if thats what she really wants.
me: 30 XW:28 tgthr:4 m:1 no kids BD: June 2013 D: Jan 2014