My problem with this is that I dont really know what is important prior to initially responding. The last few times it just starts with a generic, "Are you there".

These have tended to lend to better conversations where she shares her feelings, where as others which start with just a statement about or emoticon dont really go anywhere.

I definitely dont want to not respond as a form of punishment, but also dont want to be a doormat. This is a personal 180 for me. In the past I would just do whatever I could to help without any expectations. Now,I am just trying to find the balance between showing that I can understand her feelings, but not that I will be there as her support while she continues with OM.


me: 30 XW:28
tgthr:4 m:1
no kids
BD: June 2013
D: Jan 2014