I try not to respond immediately all the time, but I generally do respond at some point.
Originally Posted By: 3boyzmom
I think that you can respond and validate without being her emotional support. It may take a bit to find the right balance. Maybe just pick and choose what to respond to based on the contact of the message.
I agree with this^^^
If being there for your W is a 180, something you did not do during the M, than absolutely yes be there now. If you were there before, still be there now.
Like 3B said pick and choose the important things to respond to and respond, but maybe not immediately. Take some time to think what you want to respond to and how to respond. One of the things W and I face is we say something to the other to bait or get a response, those are the things not to respond to.
Don’t “not respond” to punish. I get why you feel that way, it’s a control trigger.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
