SO I hope I am getting this right I just keep adding to my original thread following after people post comments.. Is that right?
YES - stick to one thread until 100 posts
Originally Posted By: loualea
I have been reading about validating his feelings about the marriage. I understand not to argue with his feelings and the memory he has of events but to validate the feelings he has about them.
I think I have that part right, or do I?
Yes validation is a good technique to use.
Originally Posted By: loualea
My concern is the sadness that I see, he is either angry or empty/sad. It is an emotion I have not seen him display before. Do I ask him how he is feeling, do I reflect that he seems really down does he want to talk about it. Do I pretend I don't see it?
You didnt break him and you can not FIX him.
Best to keep quiet and not say anything.
Dont pretend anything but sometimes it is better to fake it until you can make it. Does that make sense?
